Long distance relationships are tough and difficult and they require a lot of things to work and maintain. Here is some personal advice to make your distance relationship last a lifetime.
1. Talk regularly.
Communication is one of the key factors to make your long distance relationship work. It’s essential to keep together in touch even when you’re miles apart. You have to use the power of technology but, don’t suffocate one another through the limitless mediums. Video chats can be a glimpse of reality. You might spend hours together, but deep inside it won’t be anywhere near the comfort of actually being together. But don’t let loneliness consume you. It will just ruin your day and every moment while in this kind of relationship is critical. Make it memorable and full of joy and comfort. Apply the “no room for gloom” in every aspect.
Don’t forget to talk about little things. The small details that happened to your day. Whether how you looked like after you wake up from a weekend party night or when a random stranger thanked you for being kind to them. Because these little things are what relationships are really made of. It keeps it alive and excited.
Show your partner a respect for their wants and needs, boundaries of each others privacy. Sometimes being apart can be more challenging for your partner than it is for you. So don’t let your relationship shackles your growth as an individual. Don’t keep your doubts bottled up. Drop doubts down. To keep everything light, be honest with each other. Honesty will let you both know what to be careful of and how to keep each other happy and contented. Be transparent too. It makes the uncertainties and insecurities of yourself and about on others relationship visible. It will make you easier to distinguish what things you need to work on and improve. Knowing how to treat and respect yourself, your partner and the relationship will let you survive and stand the greater storms ahead of you.
Learn how to embrace the activities of your partner’s life outside the relationship. Before you were in it, they have a life and you cannot expect them to live their lives just by sitting on the phone to answer texts and chat with you. That’s the reality. You have to adjust to the environment and people that surround them. The adjustment doesn’t mean you have to be obsessed and know everyone in details around them. It means you have to break the emotional turmoil and have consistency in faith despite your mind tells you every time that something’s peculiar is happening behind the scenes.
There will be moments when you’re at the corner of your bed, you will feel lonely seeing other couples posts on social media being happy and together. You will crave to hold hands and see each other smile. The idea of reality will hit you every morning and every part of the day. But, help yourself to get up. In order for the relationship to stay healthy, you have to be healthy first. Get out there, meet real people, interact and talk to people you meet at the coffee shop, live a healthy lifestyle, read a book and absorb the rays of positivity from the sun. Distance is associated with loneliness, but it doesn’t mean you have to embrace them both. You have the option to stay positive and always choose it over anything else. Be positive within and outside the relationship.
5. Treat each other as if you’re physically present.
We all know there will be occasions you will miss because of the distance. But don’t let it prevent you from being “almost” there with them. You can buy gifts, write love letters (even if you have ugly handwriting), start a journey blog or write a song about your relationship and maximize the power of technology just to make sure you won’t miss the important moment in each other’s lives, and even in the relationship itself. Always remember, everything will always be possible if you really want to make it happen. We are surrounded by resources we need, we just have to use them wisely.
Distance separates two people who are deeply in love. It will take a lot of guts, effort, understanding, and love to surpass this kind of hindrance. But if you read each advice stated above, it will help you to surpass the storm in your relationship. By the way, the word “trust” wasn’t mentioned as it is because I broke it down on every advice. Hope it will help you. Stay strong, in love and don’t let distance ruin your relationship!